Does your child tend to throw objects, scream and hit you or others when they lose control? It can be distressing for you to see your child’s sudden outbursts due to the harm it could cause to them or others. Such aggressive behaviours could be a symptom of an underlying difficulty in handling intense emotions. At their young age, children are still figuring out how to deal with feelings of anger or frustration and have not acquired the skills to solve problems without getting upset. You may be feeling helpless if your child’s aggressiveness shows no signs of slowing down, but there are a few strategies that can be useful in helping your child manage their behaviour while fostering empathy, self-control and improved social skills.

 

Contents:

1. Why do children get aggressive? 
2. What you can do to reduce your child’s aggression
3. How DNA insights can help you personalize your parenting approach

 

Why do children get aggressive?

Aggression in children is often not intentional misbehaviour but rather a reaction to overwhelming emotions. Young children, especially toddlers and preschoolers, have underdeveloped impulse control and struggle to express frustration, anger, or fear in a calm manner.

The following factors can contribute to aggressive behaviour, including:

• Low Stress Tolerance – Some children react aggressively when they feel unable to complete a task or when things don’t go their way.
• Impulsivity and Poor Self-Control – Underdeveloped executive functioning makes it hard for young children to pause before reacting.
• Environmental Influences – Exposure to aggressive behaviour at home, school, or in media can reinforce similar responses.
• Low Empathy – Children who struggle to understand how their actions affect others may be more likely to act out aggressively. They might not yet recognize that hitting or yelling can hurt someone emotionally or physically.

Understanding the root cause of your child’s aggression can help you respond with empathy and effective strategies, rather than just focusing on stopping the behaviour.

 

What You Can Do to Reduce Your Child’s Aggression

Helping your child gain control over their emotions and reactions takes patience, consistency, and the right approach. Here are three key strategies:

1. Teach Emotional Awareness & Self-Regulation:
Instead of punishing aggression, help your child identify and express their emotions in a healthier way.

• Label their feelings: “I see you’re really frustrated because your tower fell.”
• Teach calming strategies: Deep breathing, squeezing a stress ball, or counting to 10.
• Encourage words over actions: “When you’re mad, tell me with words instead of hitting.”

2. Set Clear and Consistent Boundaries:
Children need to know that aggression is not acceptable, but emotions are.

• Stay calm and firm: “I won’t let you hit. If you’re upset, let’s take a break together.”
• Model good behaviour: Show them how to express frustration constructively.
• Offer alternatives: Redirect aggression to a safe outlet, like punching a pillow or drawing their feelings.

3. Reinforce Positive Behaviour:
Encouraging self-control and emotional maturity through positive reinforcement can be more effective than punishment.

• Praise efforts: “You took deep breaths instead of yelling—that’s great self-control!”
• Offer small rewards for managing anger well, like stickers or extra playtime.
• Teach problem-solving: Guide them in finding peaceful solutions to conflicts with siblings or friends.

 

How DNA Insights Can Help You Personalize Your Parenting Approach

Every child reacts to frustration differently. Some may naturally have higher stress tolerance, while others may struggle with impulsivity and aggression due to their genetic traits. 

The Decode Talent DNA Test is not just a talent identification tool—it’s also a powerful early intervention resource. By analyzing genetic predispositions, parents can gain deeper insights into their child’s::

• Aggressiveness & Impulsivity Levels – Understand their natural tendencies and tailor discipline accordingly.
• Stress Tolerance & Resilience – Learn whether they need extra support in managing stress.
• Empathy & Emotional Sensitivity – Find ways to nurture emotional intelligence and social skills.

Rather than viewing aggression as a behavioral problem, DNA testing offers a way to understand it as part of a child's unique emotional profile. With early insights, parents can develop an approach that works best for them—helping them grow into emotionally strong, well-regulated individuals.